“Everyone says that love hurts, but that’s not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality, love is the only thing in this world that covers up all the pain and makes someone feel wonderful again.”—
“Whether it’s letters to the school newspaper, local media coverage, or debates between student organizations, Sex Week gets people talking. In fact, it’s not just about the week itself, since the discussions continue throughout the school year. Students have written to me nine months later and said “your talk at Sex Week changed everything.” In those cases, it’s clear that Sex Week is just the beginning of fostering more discussion and community around sexuality issues. Sex Week plants the seeds, opens the lines of communication, and ultimately makes for a richer, fuller college experience.”—Tristan Taormino on Why Sex Week Matters (via cleispress)
if you tell someone ‘no’ and they respond with “FINE……….” or “guess ill be all alone….” or “its okay im used to having my hopes crushed…….” or any of that guilt-inducing passive aggressive fuckery, cut them straight out of your life because you never deserve to feel bad for setting boundaries or speaking your mind.
“I began to feel how patronising it was of us to presume to judge their intelligence, as if ours was any kind of standard by which to measure. I tried to imagine instead how he saw us, but of course that’s almost impossible to do, because the assumptions you end up making as you try to bridge the imaginative gap are, of course, your own, and the most misleading assumptions are the ones you don’t even know you’re making.”—Douglas Adams while observing Mountain Gorillas in Last Chance to See. (via birdschoolforbirds)
A friend of a friend of mine is doing a study on intimate relationships and is specifically looking for people who self-identify as either “monogamous” or “polyamorous”. You can get more details and contact info from the linked landing page or the survey’s consent form.